It's true, and I think refurekushon got it dead on, motivation, determination
and stuff like purpose is lacking in alot of people.
We should get together like NHK and jump off a cliff =( (Maybe an angel will
come down and cure us of our worries! hopefully b4 we jump*)
cause it really suks atm. It feels like God's left us to rot, and we rely on
irrational thinking to keep us going each day.
I think turning to love will only worsen anyone's problems, which is quite
evident in Sakura's post. There's no sanctuary for us; so its either war
outside, or war in our own minds. We end up trying to avoid thinking of such
matters as a whole. But even that doesn't seem to work.
I remember a person saying we need balance in our life, balance between fun and
work. It seems like work is occupying more of our times than fun and playtime.
And usually fun and playtime comes at the expense of another. So what's a
solution..?
I'm thinking, if we can attempt to create a device that allows us to communicate
and interact while we sleep, acting as a second life. It'll be a step from our
own attempt to block out bad things in life.
A life in which you can start over anytime you want, or do anything you want, be
anyone you want, or 'pause' or 'save' and continue anytime you want when you
sleep... something tailored to your every desire. *<something like a more
Advanced REM sleep> That'll be nice. I mean, ever watch Zegapain or even
Matrix?, they touch base on these things, they mention the advantages and
disadvantages of these alternate realities, but they always give the message
that it's no good in the end. Well I think that's because they put such
restrictions on the system and people.
too many things to discuss for this one....
Not sure about this, probably not possible. K its getting really loud here in
the library... Hard to live this antisocial life...
*edit
Ooops I didnt' know there was a second page, that was only a few extra posts...
but I read something about calzor talking about how emo people should just 'take
it' and go ahead and die and people that are emotionally distress should die
off? Naivety couldn't be any more blatant.
The thing about thinking about how other people are 'worse off' or more
'miserable' than you are is subjective, and absolutely relative. Heath Ledger
died famous and rich, and he's a stunning guy too. No one in this world has 'it'
worse or better than anyone.
Depends on what you're studying, if its high school, then its possible to finish
all your homework all at once. But if its university and you're majoring in a a
difficult field, its really difficult to keep up with school work.
I'm in university and completing anything fully is a non-existent phrase to me,
I usually do the most important ones first, and deal with the rest later when
the time comes. Sound bad, but I don't even have time to get a good nights
sleep.
The truth, the bottom line, the key, the most righteous mindset
Human Psychology, how much we ponder daily...
Lets not read posts on what people think life
is,_______________________________
__________________________________Lets read what people are doing to rectify
it.
Quote by SSBattousaiIts definately a
reoccuring problem for me, I'm end up feeling lonely most of the time, its
affecting me.
I usually try fixing things myself, doing stuff myself, on my own, but lately,
its getting to me, I feel more inclined to be with people, yet I find no one I
like to be with. My sister says I'm too selective with friends, I find I have
many friends, but none of them are true. I'm definately out there in school
activities, representatives of many things, but in the end, I don't feel
changed. Often at times, I find myself being totally disgusted with humans.... I
don't know what's going on or what phase I'm going through, but I need to pass
uni, and I'm in a really difficult program which requires alot of studying,
which means more alone time, and more lamenating about life.
How do I solve this?
Do I have to delude myself? Change my morals? My ethics? Find a random
girlfriend, I'll probably end up hurting? I can't resort to anything lately, and
I usually solve things on my own...
Its damaging me thats what i know, and I can't find out the reason. Someone
mentioned the cause may be from a past experience, I don't recall it. Or rather,
I can't.
Help =(
I know how you feel, I was too lonely in uni for about 2 years. It was very
depressing for me and once I'd even thought of suicide cause I couldn't take it
anymore, cause no one really wanted to talk to me or be my friends.
But don't fear there's help, go see your uni counsellor and tell them about your
situation. They'll be more than willing to provide you with solutions for your
problems.
Believe me I've been there and still going there now (this time it's for a
different problem) and I was surprised to find out they have these things called
"Social Groups" where people like us who are suffering from the same
problems get together and do fun stuff together. It's a good way to make friends
with people you can relate to and that understand what you're going
through.
So yeah, ask the counsellor to recommend you to some social groups, there are
all kinds of social groups for people who are suffering from different
problems.
And also heard of something called Toastmasters?
If not, it's a social club where you can improve your communication skills,
learn how to speak in public without nervousness and learn how to speak in
different ways for different situations (e.g. Job interview). Fun for everybody,
express yourself in ways you desire and tell people about your interests
.
Toastmasters is all over the world and competitions are held around every 6
months, from district to International! Trophies and awards are up for grabs!
Free food during the event!
Also, when you join up you get manuals that teach you how to prepare different
types of speeches, and by completing a certain number of speeches you get what
they call a Compitent Toastmaster's Award and also a letter to your employer, so
employers actually take what you'd achieved in toastmasters seriously! So it's
good for your job prospects!
Oh, did I mention, you can come as a guest to see how it is, and you can come
back as many times as you want.
It's also a positive and friendly environment, where the people there make you
feel welcome
Anyways, I hope my advice helps SSBattousai.
It's hard, to even go to a counsellor, if I could, then I probably wouldn't need
counseling, right? I can't... I won't, go to counseling, it'll definately make
it worse.
Its definately a reoccuring problem for me, I'm end up feeling lonely most of
the time, its affecting me.
I usually try fixing things myself, doing stuff myself, on my own, but lately,
its getting to me, I feel more inclined to be with people, yet I find no one I
like to be with. My sister says I'm too selective with friends, I find I have
many friends, but none of them are true. I'm definately out there in school
activities, representatives of many things, but in the end, I don't feel
changed. Often at times, I find myself being totally disgusted with humans.... I
don't know what's going on or what phase I'm going through, but I need to pass
uni, and I'm in a really difficult program which requires alot of studying,
which means more alone time, and more lamenating about life.
How do I solve this?
Do I have to delude myself? Change my morals? My ethics? Find a random
girlfriend, I'll probably end up hurting? I can't resort to anything lately, and
I usually solve things on my own...
Its damaging me thats what i know, and I can't find out the reason. Someone
mentioned the cause may be from a past experience, I don't recall it. Or rather,
I can't.
but from what I know, beauty is often associated with women, and with a guy,
being mistaken as a woman, could possibly mean you're beautiful, pretty.... DOES
NOT MEAN 'gay' so don't think its a bad thing, society always puts out what men
should look like and what women should look like, its detrimental, but good
sometimes.
but look here, from studies and from what I've read so far. beauty is further
associated with symmetry, purity, a person with a kind heart... aren't those
traits good? Girls would dig you and guys also dig you, then you must be pretty
pretty, and add on those other traits you have... then no manly guy could ever
get as many guys/girls acquaintances ever! its a good thing, since we live in
such a judgemental world, its good to be liked from both sides.... it can be
beneficial to you. but only if you're liked, only if in this case, if you're a
guy... being mistaken as a girl...
Not that I'm saying a girl being mistaken as a guy isn't good, its just a new
way of viewing things, girls are standing up for themselves now, being more
independent of people's closed minded values and beliefs, Its not the usual... '
they should be proper, decent, composed, a nice figure, non-aggressive'//
instead, they're being themselves, so don't worry if society deems it as a
'weird' bad thing, its just that we haven't lived long enough to appreciate
it.
girls being mistaken as guys, if on phone.... i really don't think it happens
often, i may be wrong, just 1 in 100, nothing wrong or special... and if online,
then there's no arguement, cause online, you can be anything you want, say
anything you want, and do anything practically...
btw, you may think that because of the username i have, the tone and vocabulary
I use, I'm a guy... But in fact, I'm a girl ,
No I'm not, that statement is false, I am a guy, It could be that easy? a few
statements? a few words? well, for the topic starter, you use alot of those
smiley expressions, which I think you know, is key for people to assume you're a
girl... according to society's standards, and I'm sure you all know this quite
well, and need not me repeat, but I will for my sake:
Guys: macho, protective, strong, intelligent, agile, higher spirited, blach
blach,,,..
(mostly caused from the human male/female makeup, males over the years are
reported to be larger in general, compared to a female, thus, people, having
nothing better to do back then, associate them with what seems right)
Girls: slim, not aggressive, intelligent... i need not say more,..
and people around us, reiterate these very facts to us, what we are Supposed to
be, its WRONG, that's one thing I know to be sure, those ads, those subliminal
stuff, people accept it, thus everyone would eventually fall prey to these
things, its horrible, it ruins people, it makes them not who they should be,
which is themselves.... really getting off topic here.
Its awesome, so to cope with these situations, giving them a pat, like kokuyu
said is a good idea, or just be u. like u as in you
Quote by -kira-yamato-she had it
coming. but it depends on what she said about you. anyways i wish i can go in
the future and then find out how to make a time machine then go back in time and
make a time machine then go in the future and i will be rich for making the time
machine then i will go way in the future and .................. ummm make the
next lvl of time traveling machines. then i willlll ummm jk. every time i break
something important or i loose something from making a bad dicision i wish i
could go back in time just a little bit just to make things right. thats all i
have to say. sry its so big and stuff i see you around im really bord bye bye ja
ne
dang its not big enough ummmmmm bye sry hello now i really wish i could go back
in time cause i cant stop typing this message. anyways next time she says
something about you.... bye
amazing, I've never thought of it that way, kinda higher way of thinking i
think,
going into the future, to make it back into the past,
hmmm possible,
------------------------------
but
back in time? logically not possible, discussions... possible, i
suppose
what's the usual comments... hmmm racking up what's in my head atm...
- what you actually did before makes who you are today, going back may bring
about worse outcomes
- going bak in time is impossible since it would change the path your old self
woula took to make the decision to go bak in time and you'll actually be not
existant, or it shouldn't work in the first place, a deny messsage, from the
universe should come about...
- go back in time and live life different...
I've wished, going back in time, just at the time, that instant, would be nice,
but later I thought it wouldn't work, thus I didn't really pry into that
question much,
If on the possible account, that happened, anyone, or maybe any human would try
to live the life, exactly the way they lived it before... and it would, happen,
no matter what I think.
so
no machine could do that, nor any powers of any sort. but pausing time or
stopping time for everyone except youself, may prove to be more insightful and
could have some looking into... i dunno, i'm not old enough to give anyhting of
substance but weird random musings. =D
I haven't gotten to read all the posts, this may seem repetitive of some sort
then
anyhow
to answer your question, regardless whether you read this or not.
is it that difficult to say goodbye?
doesn't depend.
doesn't mean life is short
i think it means its time to show some love...
good thing about typing is that its different from speaking.. =D ain't
it?
well listen, i think, saying goodbye, it must have substance, some meaning to
it,
saying good bye cause they're crying, pitying isn't the right mindset, (if i
recalled from what u said is wrong, then its my fault...) nor should it be cause
you felt a connection, last minute.... you said yourself that you didn't really
care much for them... AND you can't force yourself to....
not my point however,
just show them the lasting love, the connection they wanted, the outting that
they wanted... would that make it memorable?
up to you, i just think, they want more, they would ultimately think that way,
as humans, its prone for us to feel emptiness, sadiness, due to the fact that
the scary.. i mean scary... ever changing course of life is occuring right in
front of them in plain sight, friends are friends. but they are your friends,
cause you did tell them that you were going to leave, that brings about some
answers to your question yourself too no?
if i made no sense whatsoever, just ignore this post
connotations from my part:
love: a inner unknown connection/aura/feeling emitting from the heart/mind/body,
a sure way to understand this fully is to look into someone's eyes, attempt to
feel, not see, but feel from what's going on in their eyes,
substance: not material, not liquid, just pure things that really makes it makes
sense...
connection: related strongly to love, its.. a connection with another, think of
it as a computer usb port plugging into another usb port of another computer,
but something more advanced, something that requires the other computer to fully
understand the other computer before contining communication.
if you don't get a word, or my drift, its reasonable, my mother says she doens't
get me either, but that's getting personal, get what you can from this post i
suppose.... if nothing, its ok, if something, i hope its right...
Possibly a long post. isuggest you read slow... its understandable that way,
more connections, less confusion, just don't critize me yet:
this is my first post, I'm not sure what came about for me to start writing in
this thread, but lately, I want to express myself more.
Here's my 2 cents: or just my thoughts on what I just read:
My, I, He, She, the everything, I've noticed many things start off like this...
we live such short lives, and we have to think about what's next, what else, how
come, why not, what the?
What's my point? One lessens the pain of these thoughts by pitying others,
'wrong connotation' by... lemme put it this way,... by considering that others
have it worse, answer is yes and no.
no - somehow assuming ur problems are somewhat always less than the more
unfortunate.. i think its different, everyone is different, everyone is unique
right? doing so just masks one's problems disappear temporarily. really
temporarily. its just bound to come back.
yes - it will avoid pain, confusion, the whole deal, it may be good, bad, up to
you, preventing sucides...
believe me,.... er hard to believe me.. I'mma stranger, but lets hear what this
individual has to say, its not tough, its not bad, its not good, nor is it
anything, everything should be nothing, more and more people, just think, and to
think is an ok thing, i think, its just always a loop, an infinite amount of
answers for any question, yet also there's no answer to any question.
I'm not making sense. or am I?
move on?
breakups?
pain?
loss of anything?
look on the bright side?
look on the positive side?
people have it worse, so put their worries over ours?
I don't know my self, I don't have an answer for you guys, nor do I have advice,
as I said, this is my 2 cents, I love humans I hate them, I have many friends, I
don't have any friends.... contradictions? not to me, nothing is, everything is.
I've been nowhere, and I don't know much, I live life just living, just
breathing, just a drone in this world, meaningless? possibly or possibly not,
one thing you can count on, we get to die. and dying means we strive, as humans,
single handedly without help, each one of us, finding paths, finding truths,
half truths, lies, comfort in anything, anything... would be ok... Nothing is
wrong, and nothing can ever be right...
find comfort, find bliss, find the constants in your life... life is life, ever
changing? always not the same? always, but if you really want to...
if you really have to....
if you really need to...
then its ok to be yourself.
That's it for my 2 cents, its not advice, but if you want to take it that way,
be my guest, I'm only 18, I barely know love.
wow, this thread changed my life
It's true, and I think refurekushon got it dead on, motivation, determination and stuff like purpose is lacking in alot of people.
We should get together like NHK and jump off a cliff =( (Maybe an angel will come down and cure us of our worries! hopefully b4 we jump*)
cause it really suks atm. It feels like God's left us to rot, and we rely on irrational thinking to keep us going each day.
I think turning to love will only worsen anyone's problems, which is quite evident in Sakura's post. There's no sanctuary for us; so its either war outside, or war in our own minds. We end up trying to avoid thinking of such matters as a whole. But even that doesn't seem to work.
I remember a person saying we need balance in our life, balance between fun and work. It seems like work is occupying more of our times than fun and playtime. And usually fun and playtime comes at the expense of another. So what's a solution..?
I'm thinking, if we can attempt to create a device that allows us to communicate and interact while we sleep, acting as a second life. It'll be a step from our own attempt to block out bad things in life.
A life in which you can start over anytime you want, or do anything you want, be anyone you want, or 'pause' or 'save' and continue anytime you want when you sleep... something tailored to your every desire. *<something like a more Advanced REM sleep> That'll be nice. I mean, ever watch Zegapain or even Matrix?, they touch base on these things, they mention the advantages and disadvantages of these alternate realities, but they always give the message that it's no good in the end. Well I think that's because they put such restrictions on the system and people.
too many things to discuss for this one....
Not sure about this, probably not possible. K its getting really loud here in the library... Hard to live this antisocial life...
*edit
Ooops I didnt' know there was a second page, that was only a few extra posts... but I read something about calzor talking about how emo people should just 'take it' and go ahead and die and people that are emotionally distress should die off? Naivety couldn't be any more blatant.
The thing about thinking about how other people are 'worse off' or more 'miserable' than you are is subjective, and absolutely relative. Heath Ledger died famous and rich, and he's a stunning guy too. No one in this world has 'it' worse or better than anyone.
... er I'm gonna get off topic so I'll just stop.
guys smell, but I'mma guy and I smell nice cause I got two awesomely sisters and they let me use their products to the max.
Smell good ppl. please smell good. Stinky ppl are ew ew.
Depends on what you're studying, if its high school, then its possible to finish all your homework all at once. But if its university and you're majoring in a a difficult field, its really difficult to keep up with school work.
I'm in university and completing anything fully is a non-existent phrase to me, I usually do the most important ones first, and deal with the rest later when the time comes. Sound bad, but I don't even have time to get a good nights sleep.
The truth, the bottom line, the key, the most righteous mindset
Human Psychology, how much we ponder daily...
Lets not read posts on what people think life is,_______________________________
__________________________________Lets read what people are doing to rectify it.
myself
It's hard, to even go to a counsellor, if I could, then I probably wouldn't need counseling, right? I can't... I won't, go to counseling, it'll definately make it worse.
I'm in.
Its definately a reoccuring problem for me, I'm end up feeling lonely most of the time, its affecting me.
I usually try fixing things myself, doing stuff myself, on my own, but lately, its getting to me, I feel more inclined to be with people, yet I find no one I like to be with. My sister says I'm too selective with friends, I find I have many friends, but none of them are true. I'm definately out there in school activities, representatives of many things, but in the end, I don't feel changed. Often at times, I find myself being totally disgusted with humans.... I don't know what's going on or what phase I'm going through, but I need to pass uni, and I'm in a really difficult program which requires alot of studying, which means more alone time, and more lamenating about life.
How do I solve this?
Do I have to delude myself? Change my morals? My ethics? Find a random girlfriend, I'll probably end up hurting? I can't resort to anything lately, and I usually solve things on my own...
Its damaging me thats what i know, and I can't find out the reason. Someone mentioned the cause may be from a past experience, I don't recall it. Or rather, I can't.
Help =(
No.
Marry me, now... right now, right here, right this instance.
Take it in, and fight it, with everything you got. Figure out what your priorities are, solve each one step by step.
I love MT...
but from what I know, beauty is often associated with women, and with a guy, being mistaken as a woman, could possibly mean you're beautiful, pretty.... DOES NOT MEAN 'gay' so don't think its a bad thing, society always puts out what men should look like and what women should look like, its detrimental, but good sometimes.
but look here, from studies and from what I've read so far. beauty is further associated with symmetry, purity, a person with a kind heart... aren't those traits good? Girls would dig you and guys also dig you, then you must be pretty pretty, and add on those other traits you have... then no manly guy could ever get as many guys/girls acquaintances ever! its a good thing, since we live in such a judgemental world, its good to be liked from both sides.... it can be beneficial to you. but only if you're liked, only if in this case, if you're a guy... being mistaken as a girl...
Not that I'm saying a girl being mistaken as a guy isn't good, its just a new way of viewing things, girls are standing up for themselves now, being more independent of people's closed minded values and beliefs, Its not the usual... ' they should be proper, decent, composed, a nice figure, non-aggressive'// instead, they're being themselves, so don't worry if society deems it as a 'weird' bad thing, its just that we haven't lived long enough to appreciate it.
girls being mistaken as guys, if on phone.... i really don't think it happens often, i may be wrong, just 1 in 100, nothing wrong or special... and if online, then there's no arguement, cause online, you can be anything you want, say anything you want, and do anything practically...
btw, you may think that because of the username i have, the tone and vocabulary I use, I'm a guy... But in fact, I'm a girl
,
No I'm not, that statement is false, I am a guy, It could be that easy? a few statements? a few words? well, for the topic starter, you use alot of those smiley expressions, which I think you know, is key for people to assume you're a girl... according to society's standards, and I'm sure you all know this quite well, and need not me repeat, but I will for my sake:
Guys: macho, protective, strong, intelligent, agile, higher spirited, blach blach,,,..
(mostly caused from the human male/female makeup, males over the years are reported to be larger in general, compared to a female, thus, people, having nothing better to do back then, associate them with what seems right)
Girls: slim, not aggressive, intelligent... i need not say more,..
and people around us, reiterate these very facts to us, what we are Supposed to be, its WRONG, that's one thing I know to be sure, those ads, those subliminal stuff, people accept it, thus everyone would eventually fall prey to these things, its horrible, it ruins people, it makes them not who they should be, which is themselves.... really getting off topic here.
Its awesome, so to cope with these situations, giving them a pat, like kokuyu said is a good idea, or just be u. like u as in you
you.... =D
amazing, I've never thought of it that way, kinda higher way of thinking i think,
going into the future, to make it back into the past,
hmmm possible,
------------------------------
but
back in time? logically not possible, discussions... possible, i suppose
what's the usual comments... hmmm racking up what's in my head atm...
- what you actually did before makes who you are today, going back may bring about worse outcomes
- going bak in time is impossible since it would change the path your old self woula took to make the decision to go bak in time and you'll actually be not existant, or it shouldn't work in the first place, a deny messsage, from the universe should come about...
- go back in time and live life different...
I've wished, going back in time, just at the time, that instant, would be nice, but later I thought it wouldn't work, thus I didn't really pry into that question much,
If on the possible account, that happened, anyone, or maybe any human would try to live the life, exactly the way they lived it before... and it would, happen, no matter what I think.
so
no machine could do that, nor any powers of any sort. but pausing time or stopping time for everyone except youself, may prove to be more insightful and could have some looking into... i dunno, i'm not old enough to give anyhting of substance but weird random musings. =D
I haven't gotten to read all the posts, this may seem repetitive of some sort then
anyhow
to answer your question, regardless whether you read this or not.
is it that difficult to say goodbye?
doesn't depend.
doesn't mean life is short
i think it means its time to show some love...
good thing about typing is that its different from speaking.. =D ain't it?
well listen, i think, saying goodbye, it must have substance, some meaning to it,
saying good bye cause they're crying, pitying isn't the right mindset, (if i recalled from what u said is wrong, then its my fault...) nor should it be cause you felt a connection, last minute.... you said yourself that you didn't really care much for them... AND you can't force yourself to....
not my point however,
just show them the lasting love, the connection they wanted, the outting that they wanted... would that make it memorable?
up to you, i just think, they want more, they would ultimately think that way, as humans, its prone for us to feel emptiness, sadiness, due to the fact that the scary.. i mean scary... ever changing course of life is occuring right in front of them in plain sight, friends are friends. but they are your friends, cause you did tell them that you were going to leave, that brings about some answers to your question yourself too no?
if i made no sense whatsoever, just ignore this post
connotations from my part:
love: a inner unknown connection/aura/feeling emitting from the heart/mind/body, a sure way to understand this fully is to look into someone's eyes, attempt to feel, not see, but feel from what's going on in their eyes,
substance: not material, not liquid, just pure things that really makes it makes sense...
connection: related strongly to love, its.. a connection with another, think of it as a computer usb port plugging into another usb port of another computer, but something more advanced, something that requires the other computer to fully understand the other computer before contining communication.
if you don't get a word, or my drift, its reasonable, my mother says she doens't get me either, but that's getting personal, get what you can from this post i suppose.... if nothing, its ok, if something, i hope its right...
Possibly a long post. isuggest you read slow... its understandable that way, more connections, less confusion, just don't critize me yet:
this is my first post, I'm not sure what came about for me to start writing in this thread, but lately, I want to express myself more.
Here's my 2 cents: or just my thoughts on what I just read:
My, I, He, She, the everything, I've noticed many things start off like this... we live such short lives, and we have to think about what's next, what else, how come, why not, what the?
What's my point? One lessens the pain of these thoughts by pitying others, 'wrong connotation' by... lemme put it this way,... by considering that others have it worse, answer is yes and no.
no - somehow assuming ur problems are somewhat always less than the more unfortunate.. i think its different, everyone is different, everyone is unique right? doing so just masks one's problems disappear temporarily. really temporarily. its just bound to come back.
yes - it will avoid pain, confusion, the whole deal, it may be good, bad, up to you, preventing sucides...
believe me,.... er hard to believe me.. I'mma stranger, but lets hear what this individual has to say, its not tough, its not bad, its not good, nor is it anything, everything should be nothing, more and more people, just think, and to think is an ok thing, i think, its just always a loop, an infinite amount of answers for any question, yet also there's no answer to any question.
I'm not making sense. or am I?
move on?
breakups?
pain?
loss of anything?
look on the bright side?
look on the positive side?
people have it worse, so put their worries over ours?
I don't know my self, I don't have an answer for you guys, nor do I have advice, as I said, this is my 2 cents, I love humans I hate them, I have many friends, I don't have any friends.... contradictions? not to me, nothing is, everything is.
I've been nowhere, and I don't know much, I live life just living, just breathing, just a drone in this world, meaningless? possibly or possibly not, one thing you can count on, we get to die. and dying means we strive, as humans, single handedly without help, each one of us, finding paths, finding truths, half truths, lies, comfort in anything, anything... would be ok... Nothing is wrong, and nothing can ever be right...
find comfort, find bliss, find the constants in your life... life is life, ever changing? always not the same? always, but if you really want to...
if you really have to....
if you really need to...
then its ok to be yourself.
That's it for my 2 cents, its not advice, but if you want to take it that way, be my guest, I'm only 18, I barely know love.